How to Help a Friend or Loved One?

Eating disorders are very sensitive issues. Many individuals want to help someone they know, but do not know where to begin. Before you try to help someone, be sure to examine your own attitudes about disordered eating. Do you think disordered eating is about any of the following?

• It is disgusting
• It is for attention
• It is behavior to control others
• It is a weakness
• It is narcissistic
• It is about wanting to be thin
• Individuals who do it are crazy

If you have any of these feelings about disordered eating, we do not recommend you try to help someone until you educate yourself about eating disorders and explore your own attitudes.

Eating disorders are medical conditions that have mental, emotional and physical complications.

When you understand this, you are in a position to be very helpful to someone struggling in silence. Remember, this is a health issue!!

These simple steps have been proven to be affective when wanting to help:

• Set a time to talk in private and allow for plenty of time
• Tell the person what you have observed in behaviors
• Relate your feelings about these observed behaviors
• Let the person talk about your observations and feelings
• Avoid conflict and recognize denial and minimization as part of the problem
• If the person is resistant, repeat you observations and feelings calmly
• Do not place shame, guilt or failure on the person
• Avoid giving simple advise
• Encourage the person to seek professional help
• Offer to help the person locate and make an appointment with a professional
• Offer to accompany the person to the appointment

For more information, please contact Pacifica Recovery, Inc.